A woman who gave up hope of having a family after spending £30,000 on failed IVF over 10 years has finally had a baby – after she conceived naturally.
Liz Walton and husband Greg were told they would never conceive without medical help after he was diagnosed with anti-sperm antibodies.
The desperate pair cleaned out their bank accounts on six rounds of IVF which nearly tore them apart by putting an enormous strain on their lives.
She finally gave up hope of ever having a family and actually thought she was going through the menopause when she discovered she was pregnant.
Overjoyed Liz, 45, is now seven months pregnant with a baby girl and offers counselling and coaching to other women struggling with infertility.
Therapist Liz, from Saltford near Bath, Somerset, said: “I’d let go of our dream of having children.
“I think because we were relaxed and finally accepting of the situation, we were in fact ready to have them.
“I feel so blessed and happy. I’m no longer in shock and just enjoying the moment.”
The pair got married in 2005 and tried to have children, but learned builder Greg, 40, had anti-sperm antibodies – a condition which causes sperm to stick together preventing them from fertilising the egg.
They had IVF for more than eight years despite being told their chance of conceiving with treatment was still less than five per cent.
She said: “We got married and thought ‘OK, let’s get pregnant’, but a couple of years later it still hadn’t happened.
“We grow up believing we are put on this earth to have children and when I couldn’t, I ended up attacking myself. I asked myself why I couldn’t and what had I done wrong.
“I was devastated each time the treatment failed. It tore me part and I felt annihilated. I kept thinking ‘how can I fix this?’ It became an obsession and drove me crazy.”
But when Liz, who used to run her own holistic complementary health practice, gave up IVF in 2010 and turned to counselling, her outlook changed.
“I took part in an emotional healing workshop and it brought our relationship to a whole new level,” she said.
“It also helped me to cope much better with the situation.
“I didn’t want to be a person full of bitterness and I realised I needed to let go. It had got to the point I wasn’t living my life, but holding out for something I couldn’t have.
“I thought I was going through the menopause and was shocked to learn I was in fact pregnant.”
“I wanted to know what was wrong with me and decided to take a pregnancy test just to rule it out. It was a cheap test, so I assumed it was wrong. I took two more before I could even start to believe it.
“I was in complete shock and we made an appointment with the doctor. When the doctor confirmed it, only then did it start to sink in.”
Liz now offers counselling and coaching to other women having infertility issues.
She said: “I believe our mindset can influence our bodies and I learned tools to become mentally and emotionally healthier. Something must have changed for both of us and we were finally ready for this.”