Meet the couple who found love while grieving for their long-term partners – who died just six days apart.
Sikje Harr, 44, and Trevor Tyers, 49, say they discovered they were each other’s soulmate during the “darkest period of their lives”.
The pair had met in 2013 at a convention for 1970s rock band Marillion with Sikje’s fiance Pete and Trevor’s long-term partner Carolyn.
The couples kept in touch sharing their love of progressive rock.
But during the Christmas period of that year, both of their partners died within six days of one another. Pete lost his life on 20th December and Carolyn on 26th.
Devastated by their loss, Sikje and Trevor confided in one another with daily messages and phone calls.
Then just three months later the pair realised their love for one another and would take it in turns to fly between the UK and Norway once a month.
In April 2017 Trevor proposed to Sikje and the pair tied the knot in Penzance, Cornwall, where they had previously had their first holiday together.
The happily-married couple are now living between Norway and the UK.
Silje said: “We both knew exactly what each other was going through.
“I would have people trying to comfort me saying they knew what I was going through but I just thought ‘No you really don’t’.
“Trevor understood the not being able to sleep at night, the ache and for every day feeling like an eternity.
“I know January always feels like a long month but that was definitely felt like the longest of my life.
“We knew we liked each other but eventually we took a leap of faith, and Trevor came to Norway three months later.
“We kissed on the airport when I picked him up and I just knew we were meant to be together.
“I remember seeing some lace not too long after and thought ‘I’m going to wear that when I get marry him.’
“Everything just felt so right despite it being so soon after one of the darkest periods of our lives.
“I actually got my mum to sew it on.
“We have since then decided to never stop leaping. We want to always try to make the choices that scare us the most, as they are always the ones that will end up with the biggest reward.”
Engineer Trevor added: “After a period of mutual support, based on understanding of the pain we were both suffering, we got together.
“Our real point is that it’s never too late to accept who you are, to find healing, to find love.”
Having discovered their love for one another, the pair remained committed to one another despite being 650 miles away.
Trevor popped the question to Silje three years into their relationship while she was on a monthly visit to the UK.
Silje said: “I’m an English Literature Masters graduate and I just absolutely love Shakespeare.
“I’m also massively into Marvel, Doctor Who and other nerdy things.
“Trevor had booked tickets to see Christopher Eccleston in MacBeth.
“After the show had finished he walked me over to the stage and I thought we were going backstage.
“He got one down on one knee and asked me to marry him in Norwegian.
“It was just the perfect moment.
“It was just so incredibly thoughtful and so incredibly me.”
The pair spent the next two year organising their wedding, agreeing to marry in Penzance, Cornwall – where they spent their first holiday together as a couple.
They were joined by Silke’s son Gabriel, 15, and Trevor’s two sons Josh, 20, and Luke, 22.
Having tied the knot last July, the married couple continue to fly out once a month before Silje moves to Leicester in June this year.
Silje said: “I’m waiting for Gabriel to finish his studies over here.
“We see each other as often as we can, both in terms of time and money. Thank goodness for Skype!
“We’re both are quite tied schedules in terms of work. But I know we’ll be together soon.
“I’m a teacher myself so the May/June period is incredibly busy for me.
“I’m making sure I pack a box a day so that I’m ready to start my new life with my soulmate.”